1. I got it at Gamestop Germany! Preordered it! Don´t know where you can get a new one, but you can get it used here:
http://www.rebuy.de/i,78574/xbox-360...-edition-uncut
I´m not sure if they sell to the US! Think you can contact the support!
2. The hat was a preorder Bonus at Gamestop Germany!
3. Please don´t cry! It´s not that worse that you have to cry!
